Wednesday, April 23, 2008

I’m sure many of us have faced this situation on least one occasion. Be it our choice or the other party, breaking up is never easy. At times, we are just afraid of being alone that we would rather stay in a disastrous relationship and suffer silently.

My first breakup was torture. I was no longer in love with the guy but he insisted that he still loved me and was committed to making the relationship work. I was miserable and I was making him miserable. We fought all the time and every conversation and discussion was an excuse for more arguments. I was already letting go and deep down I knew the relationship was doomed but he still refused to let go. He refused to acknowledge that I no longer loved him and that I was ready to move on without him in my life.

Finally I convinced him to let me go. I told him that I was merely a season for him. A season to experience, a season to learn and a season to love. Now that season is over, and a new season is dawning…for him and for me..

Breaking up is never easy but we finally said our goodbyes and moved on with our lives. I hope he learnt from what we have shared before and moved on to find a better love just like I did smile

Cheerio…

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Tuesday, April 22, 2008

A simple yet touching story that brought tears to my eyes while reading it. We tend to take our our loved ones and relationships for granted. Sometimes time pass by too fast that before you know it another day, another week, another month and another year had gone by. You can’t get back those times but you can make a difference going forward.

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out for dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman also loves you and would love to spend some time with you.

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

“What’s wrong, are you well,” she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

“I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.”

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.

My mother said,”I told my friends that I was going out with my son, and they were impressed” as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting”. We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

“It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said.

“Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did to not get to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU!” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away!”

Cheerio…

Posted by LadyJava On April 22, 2008 No comments READ FULL POST

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Past relationship shaped the way I am today. What I have gone through before, greater determine how present and future relationship are formed. 

For instance in a love relationship, I know that just because someone loves me is not enough to start one. The feelings must be mutual. Sometimes I get carried away with all the wooing that I “trick” myself into thinking that I love that person as well. It’s not fair to him and it is definitely stupid of me coz I know that relationship won’t last, as I need to give as much as I take and I won’t be able to give 100% of myself if I don’t love that person.

Past relationship also taught me that I can’t be with someone too possessive or too jealous. I am, by nature, a people person. I love people. I love my human interaction. I love events, parties, get-together and meeting new people. My significant other got to accept that…period.

Past relationship. What have you learned about yourself??

Cheerio…

Posted by LadyJava On April 16, 2008 No comments READ FULL POST
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